In the first of a three-part series on relationships we were joined by Helen Vaughan, psychotherapist with Maynooth Counselling, to find out how to manage conflict.

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor for four things people do in conflict with their partners that are detrimental to relationships. They are:

• Criticism
• Contempt
• Defensiveness
• Stonewalling

Helen has four tips for resolving conflict:

• Use "I" statements when raising issues with your partner - say how you feel.
• Describe the situation without making accusations or pointing the finger.
• What are your needs to feel better?
• Take time away from the situation and come back to it when you feel calm.

Listen to the interview in full by pressing the play button on this page.