Dating can be a minefield, and sometimes you just need to ask the public.
Today a listener got in touch with Mairead to look for your some advice when it comes to dating. It's something a lot of us are familiar with, and all of us have an opinion on! They wrote:
Hi Mairead, question for your listeners based on something you said last week about dating. I heard you mention that after 5 or 6 dates you have to question if you're really single any more. I'm a serial monogamist and hate the idea of multi-dating. I'm 40 and back on the Tinder scene. I was seeing a girl for about 3 months during the summer and when I raised the topic of being a couple she was horrified saying it was too soon. She was 7 years younger than me so maybe younger people are less open to commitment. That's the problem with online dating, too much choice and everyone is always looking for the next best thing. We split within a week of that. So my question is, how soon is too soon to expect some sort of commitment in today's dating scene?
Mairead's take on this would be that after 6 or 7 dates, it's generally understood that you're a couple. We heard from a lot of people who felt the same, and that this person was making a reasonable assumption that after 3 months of dating, you would be exclusive.
However, everyone wasn't in agreement - we heard from Alison who thinks that you should wait a year before putting a label on a relationship, so you know whether it'll work in the long run or not:
On the other side of things, Adam thinks a month is long enough to have gotten to know someone well enough to know if you want to be with them or not:
There's no right or wrong answer, but it's always an interesting discussion!
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